The right flowers depend on your relationship to the person who died, the family’s traditions, and whether you are sending to the service or to the home.
Popular funeral flowers
- Lilies: among the most traditional funeral flowers; white lilies are common.
- Roses: white for reverence, red for love, pink for gratitude or admiration.
- Carnations: long-lasting; often used in sprays and wreaths.
- Chrysanthemums: common in funeral arrangements in the U.S. and many other countries.
- Orchids and peace lilies: often sent as plants that the family can keep.
- Gladioli: tall stems used in standing sprays.
To the service or to the home?
- Service: standing sprays, wreaths, baskets and arrangements designed for display.
- Home: vase arrangements, plants and smaller bouquets that are easy to care for.
Colors
White and soft colors are the most traditional. Bright colors can suit a celebration of life, especially if they reflect the person’s personality. When in doubt, choose white, cream, lavender or soft pink.
Religious customs
- Christian: flowers are customary.
- Jewish: flowers are not traditional; consider a donation or food for the family.
- Muslim: practices vary; ask the family or mosque.
- Hindu and Buddhist: white flowers are often appropriate; ask about customs.
Ordering tips
- Check the obituary for “in lieu of flowers.”
- Include the full name of the person who died, the service date and time, and the location.
- Sign the card with your full name so the family can thank you.
Use the flower etiquette tool for advice based on your relationship.