Choosing cremation does not mean giving up a service. Many families hold a memorial service after cremation, sometimes weeks later, which allows relatives to travel and gives everyone time to plan something personal.
Timing
A memorial service can take place days, weeks or even months after the death. Consider:
- when out-of-town family can travel,
- religious customs that set a timeframe,
- a meaningful date, such as a birthday.
Where to hold it
- A funeral home chapel
- A church or other place of worship
- A family home or backyard
- A park pavilion, community center, restaurant private room or club (ask about their rules)
- Outdoors at a scattering site, where allowed. See scattering ashes in Florida.
Who leads it
A clergy member, a funeral director, a professional celebrant, or a family member or friend can lead the service. Having one person keep the order of events on track helps.
What to include
- Opening words and a welcome
- Readings, prayers or poems
- Music (live or recorded)
- One or more eulogies or shared memories
- A photo display or slideshow
- The urn, if the family wishes, often with flowers and a photograph
- A guest book or memory cards. See funeral guest books.
- A closing, followed by a reception
Livestreaming
Many funeral homes and churches can livestream services for people who cannot attend. Ask in advance about the platform and any fee.
Cost
A memorial service can be modest or elaborate. The main costs are the venue, staff (if held at a funeral home), officiant honorarium, printed materials, flowers and a reception. Use the funeral cost calculator to see general ranges.